Passive Aggression

Hola my ladies ! 

Exams are running the windmill these days . All the super slim girls are turning bodacious and rhetorical . Anger , frustration and depression however top the menu. Nightmares about not clearing your exams are yet some of spices of the season . 

Behavioural changes are a common phenomena . Passive aggression, you know what it is? In situations where two in a group are about to have a head on collision with one another , the other suddenly ceases midway saying WHATEVER ! Just to avoid making things  worse . Or when you say , Mumma I am going to bed just in a minute to avoid the war of words . This all adds up to passive aggression ... 

When procrastination is not an option, a more sophisticated passive aggressive strategy is to carry out tasks in a timely, but unacceptable manner. For example:

A student hands in sloppy homework

A husband prepares a well-done steak for his wife, though he knows she prefers to eat steak rare

An employee dramatically overspends his budget on an important project.  In all of these instances, the passive aggressive person complies with a particular request, but carries it out in an intentionally inefficient way. When confronted, he defends his work, counter-accusing others of having rigid or perfectionist standards. 

The more I went reading about this , the more I had the delusion of reference. Only to realise that my acts of clumsiness where mistook as passive aggression since my preschool .        

Backhanded compliments :

The ultimate socially acceptable means by which the passive aggressive person insults you to your core.

There are a lot of men out there who like plump women," chances are you know how much "joy" a passive aggressive compliment can bring.             

I was only joking 😒

Sarcasm is a common tool of a passive aggressive person who expresses his hostility aloud, but in socially acceptable, indirect ways. If you show that you are offended by biting, passive aggressive sarcasm, the hostile joke teller plays up his role as victim, asking, "Can't you take a joke?"    

       "Why are you getting so upset?"                   They are no less than masterminds at dissembling  shock when others, worn down by his indirect hostility, blow up in anger. In fact, he takes pleasure out of setting others up to lose their cool and then questioning their *overreactions*.     In a women's college I have dealt with dozens so far ... How about you?             Kbye