Bachelorette's Pro

Hey! 

Before you get on to any conclusions with the title . I'd tell you , dear it's about the Merry Bachelorette Life you have before 25 . Later , what changes ? Most your friends are not single . Even if  you are youngest of your siblings or the oldest of them all you will be the only single one . Yes , believe it or don't . But then, majority of the world's population is single. So if you are the only one who's single among your friends, you're not the outsider. 

For girls in my city, marrying is like reaching the delayed milestone. They are all extremely exhilarated.Being a singleton gives you the perspective of an outsider while judging someone's relationship. What you see and feel about them will make you differentiate between reality and fantasy.

Why am I writing about this shit ? When my blog is about my freaky imagination . Because I am from an all women's medical school . Surrounded by 100 ladies in a lecture theatre all of the ripe old age of 21/22 . All are spinsters except for one . Yes , everybody is eagerly waiting for there Prince Charming , or Mr. Richie Rich , Mr. Smart , Mr. Clever . 

What am I upto? Haha! Observing them . What about my choice and preferences?

Things have changed over a decade . So , have the thoughts . There has been a tremendous drift in the thoughts , money , personality and economics . In good old days , a guy who has an inherited property was considered a lottery ticket , over the years the focus shifted to a guy who has government job and no gai, then a guy who lives overseas away from his parents. These days , the breakups the guys has had from his school / college life. Next years it will be loyalty and less morbidity .

So , what do I do ? Since my childhood I had my roll number set last . Like 63 or 49 , even now it's 98 . So , the advantage? You have heard all the problems the girls who faces the examiner ahead of you faced . You are mentally prepared . The next question you may pop up is not all men are same . But then out of 100 you get to hear about the major TYPES available in the market.

These days ,What's horrifying is, most relationships end when partners' feelings for each other change over time.

So the following are the pros of getting married a little late or very late

1. Copy Moves

After all that’s what we did all our life, copying homework from our friend was any-day easier than doing it ourselves.

2. Know what you deserve

Get yourself grounded . Miss Beautiful wanted a rich NRI so chose a not so charming prince instead. Miss nerdo wanted a fair complexioned guy so that she has fair skinned kids then she chose a not so wealthy fellow.

3. To check

Dear bride, it's like a classroom. No one wants to sit on the first bench, it’s just like that. We may or may join you later . But as of now , we like to sit behind and observe you. What makes the the teacher appreciate you , makes you her pet ? What call up for a thrashing? You know certain things can be avoided by mere examples .

4. Finances

Yes ,we all want to splurge on our THE DAY . But , we all gotto know , how much is too much ? What makes my daddy run to banks for loans and what could save him from doing so? Like the flowers decorum at the house which was uninvited. The heavy set up at the terrace that went to dogs because it rained .

5. Jewellery 

The jewellery purchase , I think is the most integral part in Indian weddings , especially the daughters part . So , how do you begin shopping with a gold necklace or emerald one , a ring may be? 

You got the same ring . But you don't have enough earrings? Your friend will guide you through .

6. Clothes

The uncalled Saturn netted suits that costs ₹4-5000 is uncalled. Or the heavily embroidered saree which you are going to sport for not more than one wedding , if you are lucky . Your friend will tell you about the discounts , the over splurging .

7.Venue

In a city like Hyderabad , you have rents of venues ranging from ₹30k-400,000 . Your parents want it in a budget . You want it all plush . So , when you attend a series of your besties weddings . You which is economical. You know the best catering service . You know everything.

8. Emotional stability

To see how the girl is keeping fine after moving on to a new place away from her parents place.

9.Balance

How she balances works and play . Her family , his family.

10. Adjustment

What if he snores out loud? What if he farts loud when asleep or may be a stinky fart when he is around ? What if you find the commode is unflushed ? What if he is into constant nose picking ? What if he is a rash driver? What if ? Ok. I think I made you quite nervous . These were just the problems. But your friends could help you find solutions.

11.Oops!

As a Medico , I take the liberty to talk about these. The next move , when the protection goes awry.

12. Secrets

Told him about your crush? Told his mother that you are a really bad chef? Or he overheard you complaining about him to your mom? There are many more accidents that often occur. Secrets are meant to be kept . Disclosed only on appropriate time , before appropriate people. Your friends' bloopers will let you know what secrets could leave your life in splits .

13. Beauty

That laser treatment which was detrimental . That lipstick which was hot. The unnecessary splurge on the nail polish. You know what facial works and what doesn't . Out of the 100 odd , atleast 2 are of your skin type.

14. No Aping

The major thing you get to learn from others wedding is your life is neither DDLJ or Band Baaja Baraat that everything will fall into place . From the caterer to the electricity board people. Everybody knocks your door with some issue or the other.

Do not try to ape other couples or set unreal expectations. Live in the moment.

15. Menstrual cycle

Yes , it's a regular customer . You are lucky enough.Ask the married ones . How it affects their moods , days  and lives!

16.Freebird 

You are free. You don't have to introduce someone next to you , to everybody you meet . Nor do you have to attend a strangers wedding like an obligation. You don't have to worry of your underarm hair  have grown over a little.

It feels great to show the world that you're with the one you love but it doesn't solve your problems. There is only so much your partner can do to support you. To be stable, one needs to be independent and self sufficient.

The notion of being attracted to your polar opposite sounds like every marriage we have seen, but marrying someone with similar interests ensures a life that's based on friendship.

Will add up more

Till then 

Dig your nose into your books

Kbye